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Posted By: Shibumi It's Been Fun... - 06/29/08 10:39 AM
Folks: It's been fun. I mean that sincerely. I've had a great time learning and writing about youth soccer.

But after a few years and 2100+ posts, I'm going to retire "Shibumi/Chico/etc." I think I can find time in the middle of the night to "lurk" on this message board...but posting is too arduous for what I'm working on now. I still plan on going to high school and club games -- and I still plan on helping a few clubs that I see trying to grow the sport (e.g., CESA and CRSA come to mind immediately.)

I did want to say thank you to just a few folks. I'm going to miss a lot of folks in this post; so let me say up front I apologize to those that I don't explicitly name. There have been so many coaches that have helped over the years. While I've had my (well documented) problems with administrators and sometimes parents, I've always been a big fan of the coaches who work tirelessly to promote this sport that my kid chose to play.

Thanks to Chris Fryland who first coached my kid on his recreation boys team and then years later coached my kid in high school. Thanks to Paul Armstrong, the coach that chose my kid to her first select team; Paul led that team to a challenge cup state championship. Thanks to Shaun Jacques, who allowed my kid to join his team after that team imploded (my kid was playing up and most of the kids that spring went to play JV); Shaun led that team to a challenge cup state championship. [As far as I know, Paul and Shaun are the only coaches on the girls side to ever win challenge cup state championships at Lexington County Soccer Club.]

Shaun went above and beyond both in providing extra training and then made a move that at the time I didn't realize was extraordinary -- he recommended that my kid investigate playing for a better team. That led to Shaun recommending my kid to Andrew Hyslop of GFC -- who let her practice for free for a few months with his 17 and 18 year old kids when my kid was 13, less than 5' tall and couldn't break 90 pounds.

Andrew then did the next incredible thing -- when my kid asked how to get better, recommended she play a lot of soccer anywhere she possibly could. Thanks to "Gonzo" for letting her play in the Thursday night "ad hoc" games with mostly adults and thanks to him for letting her train with the various boys teams and during one summer play for them.

Thanks to Justin Rhodes and his wonderful Aiken Fire team who opened their training to her. I'll never forget Justin telling me that Bert Mollinari at USC asked if she was their mascot. Jamaal, Eric, and a whole lot of really great folks were very kind.

I got to know Andrew Hyslop and Pearse Tormey; both were truly inspirational in terms of how they put aside their own self-interests and drove the formation of CESA. I've never seen a single decision from either of them that even hinted that it wasn't the best thing for kids -- not just kids in the club -- but kids overall.

CESA's a godsend for girls soccer in this state. Boys soccer is more competitive on average across the state and more clubs can be competitive; but without CESA we'd be almost nowhere in a consistent fashion on the girls side (note: this does not mitigate great things done by one-off teams in the past or the strides CUFC is making being more consistent on the girls side.) But of course, this didn't start with CESA -- it started with GFC, SGU, and even before that. Hyslop and Tormey both have done a tremendous amount for girls' soccer -- thank you. And even more importantly, thanks for running an "open" club where kids can practice with any team, boy or girl, anytime they want.

The Heise's not only provide this message board, but gave my kid and other kids who weren't members of CRSA a club and led us to Will Eudy's boys team to practice with -- never asking for a dime -- thanks to the Heise's and to Eudy.

Thanks to all the coaches that let my kid train with them -- from Heather Frederick to Keith Shrum to Chris Christian to Eddie Crosby to Nick Finotti to Carlos Osorio to lots of others.

Thanks to the various ODP coaches over the year. In particular, thanks to Jamie Smith for all of the time and energy he put into ODP teams upon which my kid played. Thanks also to Brian Purcell and Heather.

A few parent thank yous. Thanks to Rick Bolt, who is the prototype for the rule that you shouldn't brag about your kid on this message board or anywhere else. His daughter, Julie, was the player of the year in SC her senior year and is a superb player for Clemson (Anson Dorrance talked about how she tore up UNC a year or two back) -- and yet Rick always talked more about the other club and high school players Julie played with. It was a superb example for how I think people should act on this board. Thanks to "Hurst66" who helped me understand soccer in his area. And thanks to a whole lot of parents who had been through a lot and helped us understand the various processes -- including the Sharpes, Matterns, the Beams, the Blackwells -- the list is endless.

Finally, a few organizational thank yous. In the past 10 years, there have been just a few organizations stepping forward to try to make change happen in SC. Leading the way was CESA. CUFC has made some amazing strides; as someone "inside" the formation of CESA, I can tell you that making these things work takes heroic effort and that Savitz and Miller did a fantastic job -- otherwise it would have imploded. And Bridge through its decision to participate outside of the USYSA structure has I think helped. I hope that these and other major clubs continue to push forward in the state.

Good luck to everyone going forward...
Posted By: Kyle Heise Re: It's Been Fun... - 06/29/08 01:02 PM
Shibumi, thank you for always providing this Message Board with worthy conversation topics and replies. We, as a soccer community, are better off for having the chance to participate in these engaging discussions. I know I, for one, have a much better understanding with the aspects of youth soccer in the Palmetto State -- and I've been around the game for 32 years in South Carolina at some level or the other.

I certainly hope you don't vacate the premise entirely and if you ever have anything to interject, then, by all means please do so.

Best wishes in the future to you and your family!
Posted By: momofboywholovessoccer Re: It's Been Fun... - 06/29/08 01:18 PM
Shibumi,

I want to thank you for your colorful and alway insightful posts on various topics over the years. I am a young soccer parent and have learned a great deal from your posts. I don't know you but my son knows "your kid" and she has been a great influence on him. She always stops to speak with him, ask him about his game, offer encouragement. Good luck to her in her future college and soccer career.
Posted By: Coach Chass Re: It's Been Fun... - 06/29/08 05:56 PM
Shibumi,

One thing I have appreciated is the fact that you have always challenged people (including me) to think--which, in my opinion, is always a good thing. Sometimes we agree, sometimes we don't, but it's always beneficial to debate and have a good look at multiple sides of an issue. Thanks for never accepting "just because" as a valid reason for doing anything that affects our youth, and for giving folks a prod to really analyze things...even in the cases when people are right, it's important to understand WHY. So...thanks for the debates--agree or disagree, I've enjoyed them!
Posted By: Coach Young Re: It's Been Fun... - 06/29/08 07:00 PM
Good stuff, friend.
Posted By: futbol(soccer) Re: It's Been Fun... - 06/29/08 07:03 PM
Shibumi.

its been great... I can't join in retirement yet ( i am somewhat semi-retired from the boards) but will be there soon.

You have a great kid who I am sure will do great at USC and I encourage any young player who has the determination that Kira has shown through the years to watch her play... Great example to follow.

I enjoyed our many discussions and certainly learned english on the way.

Good luck and will see you around
Posted By: 2004striker Re: It's Been Fun... - 06/29/08 07:28 PM
Chico...........say it ain't so !
One of the only reasons(aside from harassing Sammly L., shut^down, and others and referee haters, soccermoms, NECSA (pre-merger), was to hear the thoughts of the most rational thinker on soccer in the forum. Who will have have now to throw my 'pie charts' at in witty jest? I which I had saved that pic of you in the trash bag with one of your 'pie charts' all in your face.
Please make it an occasional point to post some more of your soccer wisdom when the mood strikes.
Posted By: socdad Re: It's Been Fun... - 06/30/08 12:51 PM
OH NO, it can't be.
You mean there will be no more....

"Fascinating really"...
"Parsing the paradox of your post"...
"Branding"...
Piecharts...
Reminders of the open training sessions at CESA and CRSA...
"The Straw Man Fallacy" and "Schadenfreude"... (actually I like "Schadenfreude")
Keeping the folks at SCYSA to task...
Reminders of the clubs that are growing the sport (CESA and CRSA----AGAIN! as Forrest Gump would say)...
References to professionally run clubs...

I could go on but I have a "plank in my eye"--no, it is not a biblical reference to being guilty of talking about others (although there probably is a measure of that). No, I really have a "plank in my eye" because I said if Shibumi mentions that SCYSA ruling "one more time" I was going to "put a stick in my eye!"--so I am off to the ophthmalogist.

Anyway, just my opinion.
Posted By: Coach Fryland Re: It's Been Fun... - 06/30/08 01:12 PM
Lexington will never be the same without you, Kira and Lisa. The program over the last 4 years has been transformed from a good team to a State Championship contender. It should be very interesting if we can continue to make strides and challenge for region championships and advance in the playoffs.
No doubt Kira will be elected to the Lexington Hall of Fame. The only problem is that we have to wait 10 years after she graduates to get her inducted. That is a scary thought. I'll be 57, Kira 27 or 28 and you and Lisa just hitting your 30's.
Thanks for all the support over years. I can't wait to see Kira at USC.
Posted By: 2004striker Re: It's Been Fun... - 06/30/08 03:35 PM
I had to repost and add to the prior posting cause I was overcome with such grief and emotion that I could not even spell........
Chico...........say it ain't so! The Guru of SC soccer hangs it up? Soccer is not worth discussing without your keen, perceptive analyses. All of our Forum brains will scrivel up and wither away from the lack of your counsel.
One of the few reasons(aside from harassing Sammy L., shut^down, Unreal Henry, Red Neck teams, referee haters, soccermoms, and the NECSA Organization (pre-merger); was to hear the thoughts of the most rational thinker on soccer in the Forum. Who will I have now to throw my 'pie charts' at in witty jest? I wish I had saved that pic of you in the trash bag with one of your famous 'pie charts' all over your face. (I will goggle it).
Please make it an occasional point to post some more of your soccer wisdom when the mood strikes. Good luck to Kira! I expect to hear much about her progress and success!
Posted By: Hurst66 Re: It's Been Fun... - 07/01/08 01:54 PM
Shibumi/Chico,

Thanks for all of your contributions over the years, it has been very educational. In my early years on these boards, you gave me a perspective on youth soccer that I never had. You offered great insight on high school state playoffs, advanced training, competitive youth soccer ("super club"), ODP, Region III Premier League and college recruiting. These were places that I had never been, but now I have a clearer undertanding.....thanks to your informative posts. As momofboywholovessoccer points out above, you have helped educate many young soccer parents by sharing the experiences you have had with your daughter.

I know you have never tried to come off as a "soccer elitist", despite your quick wit and massive intellect. You don't have to apologize, it's up to the rest of us to catch up to you! You fought the establishment and always had the best interest of the rec players in mind, even though your daughter advanced past that level a long time ago.

Don't go too far away, please keep an eye and an ear on what's going on, especially on the girls' side, and jump back into the fray whenever you can. (We need the help).

Continued good luck to Lexington HS, CESA, USC and Kira. I hope you and your wife enjoy retirement.
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