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Re: Parents vs officials sandman #131990 03/24/10 02:22 PM
Joined: Apr 2009 Posts: 478 Notsofastfriend Goal
Notsofastfriend Goal Joined: Apr 2009 Posts: 478	Quote: Quote: Might want to consider having team manager say somthing, as they are almost always a parent. Has the coach said anything to the team "family" as a whole? Yes, preseason team meeting & emails. guess its time to enforce & maybe yank his kid until he shuts it? Don't yank his kid...it is not his child's fault. Probably embarassing the kid already

Re: Parents vs officials Notsofastfriend #131991 03/24/10 02:29 PM
Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 1,521 Summerville C coldhardtruth hat-trick
coldhardtruth hat-trick C Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 1,521 Summerville	Do a majority of the parents feel the same way you do? If so..The group should talk to the parent..If he/she sees that a majority of the parents feel this way..They will usually calm down..Strength in numbers..

Re: Parents vs officials coldhardtruth #131992 03/24/10 03:31 PM
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OP sandman goal S Joined: May 2009 Posts: 532	my dream team would be all orphans

Re: Parents vs officials sandman #131993 03/24/10 03:49 PM
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Cesar Robles Goal C Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 450 RHHS	Quote: my dream team would be all orphans LOL.... great line

Re: Parents vs officials sweet feet #131994 03/24/10 04:39 PM
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Coach Chass Coach C Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,256 Likes: 2 Charleston/Berkeley	Quote: Quote: Good policy, Sweet...so, how exactly do they go about addressing it? How are expectations communicated and, even more importantly, enforced? Starts at the top with one of the best DOC's in the country, Pearse Tormey. Each CESA coach communicates to there team and parents at the start of the season what there expectations are. As far as enforcement, that would be Mr.Tormey and believe me, it rarely ever gets to that point. CESA is run by two DOC's not a bunch of knuckle headed parents. I've been really lucky with parents so far...most of them have been very positive on the sideline and I haven't had any who didn't respond to reminders about sideline conduct. Still, I am very curious about methods of dealing with that odd exception who refuses to be contained gently. Promise I'm not trying to be difficult, but what exactly is the outline for procedure? "CESA is run by two DOC's" and "that would be Mr. Tormey" are a little ambiguous and would require a conditioned response from the parent, much like "just wait till your father gets home..." only has meaning if the child has a clear idea of just WHAT will happen when Dad gets home. What I'm getting at is, what are CESA's prescribed consequences for sideline misbehavior? Suspend the player? Ban the parent from sidelines? I'm not trying to be difficult...I'm genuinely curious how the club officially handles these situations through clear consequences. I've got good news and bad news...

Re: Parents vs officials Coach Chass #131995 03/24/10 04:50 PM
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Jonathan corner kick J Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 234	ditto

Re: Parents vs officials Jonathan #131996 03/24/10 05:15 PM
Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 654 Lowcountry Belligerent goal
Belligerent goal Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 654 Lowcountry	Chass, I believe the unwritten consequences are getting "kneecapped." sweet, (this is always fun) can you share with us which clubs are run by "a bunch of knuckle headed parents" ?

Re: Parents vs officials Belligerent #131997 03/24/10 05:28 PM
Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 654 Lowcountry Belligerent goal
Belligerent goal Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 654 Lowcountry	Chass, but seriously, from what i hear, cesa coaches usually tell the parents at the very first practice (don't quote me) "i am the coach, you are not. if you don't like it, don't let the door hit you on the way out" (in a very serious, not-to-be-misunderstood tone). like sweet said, i don't think it gets back up to the big cheese very often (there are some fairly intimidating coaches there) Will that work for you? Sorry, but probably not (I know that wasn't much help).

Re: Parents vs officials Belligerent #131998 03/24/10 05:34 PM
Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,256 Likes: 2 Charleston/Berkeley C Coach Chass Coach
Coach Chass Coach C Joined: May 2002 Posts: 2,256 Likes: 2 Charleston/Berkeley	That does about sum it up; Sweet and I agreed that it also helps when you are THE option in the area so that "hit the highway" carries a bit more weight than "drive a few miles down the road." Again, I'm grateful for not having to enforce those options...thanks go out to my parents for helping create a positive environment for our players! I've got good news and bad news...

Re: Parents vs officials Coach Chass #131999 03/24/10 05:56 PM
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greenacres corner kick G Joined: Dec 2005 Posts: 271 SC	Im my experience, these things tend to straighten themselves out in time. Either the player will tell the parents to chill out or the parents will realize they do more harm than good by yelling at the ref's. The adults will mature as parents just as the kids will mature as players. Don't worry about your teams rep unless you are the coach or DOC for the club. It's really not your place, Sit back and enjoy your childs experience.

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