family first...club second...my fault for not using this rule earlier in regards to club soccer participation.our family got caught up in the club soccer thing without looking at the big "club soccer" picture.probably because she was our only child who participated in soccer at the premier level, and she was our 4th. if she was our first i would of steered the last 3 away from club soccer.i feel any input i can give to parents with young athletes i'm giving a little back to youth sports which all 4 of my children have participated on travel leagues ( baseball (AAU in Ohio), golf(SCJGA), volleyball(Club South). when i'm at a social gathering i tell them about the good, bad, and ugly of club soccer in the upstate. i tell them about the relationships my daughter developed with her teammates(good), the parents and childs relationship with the club, what our child got out of being a member of the club.how much we paid over the years to participate in the club,and the travel & time commitment they can expect.i don't think there's nothing wrong with that do you?