regardless if you think it's fair or not Coach Chass, that's how it will be called. I was playing for Lander University a few years ago, in the Elite Eight, we're 10 minutes into the game, and a striker shot a rocket from the top of the 18 box. Our CB didn't see the ball coming but his arm was up and the ball smacked into his forearm. The ball bounced straight down. The ref called a PK AND gave our CB a red card. HARSH, yes. But the shot was on goal and it changed the direction of the ball, even though he didn't mean to hand ball.
And basically what we're all arguing is a subjective call. Up to the ref, no matter if we coaches like it or not. That's how it will be.