Dad/Coach/Soccer Fan's Thoughts and Learnings:
1. ACL injuries are tougher than anyone realizes, especially if complications arise due to infection, swelling, medication, etc. It is not easier two months later, and probably not a year later. "Respect what your athlete is going through, and have empathy."
2. This is a young lady who is a thinker/player. She made All State Chorus, Girls' State, took SAT's while watching soccer for the first time. Many kids who just have soccer rush back from this injury, and often are reinjured. Great advice from her doctor and many on this forum have led her to a more balanced approach. "Experience the experience, and appreciate what the Lord has given you every day. Let your heart talk, and be honest, and the result will be a better one."
3. Teammates and teams always beat individuals. Marissa was one of the most respected teammates on all of her teams because of her ability to focus on the team instead of her individual moments. The Blue Ridge Girls' Soccer Team is having its best season ever. Every girl has stepped up and performed at a level that is much higher than it would have been. "Team first, team always."
4. Get the best doctors, the best advice, and the best rehab that you can. Dr. Michael Kissenberth of Steadman Hawkins, the Greenville Hospital System Patewood Campus, and Dave Greenburg (?) of Proaxis rehab are simply the best. Dr. Kissenberth saw Marissa every weekend day (twice) in the hospital, explained thoroughly the three options for ACL repair, called her at home this week to check on her, and is simply the most professional, personal doctor I have ever met. Dave was recommended by an scsoccer contributor from Mauldin whose daughter is going through the same thing. Thank you for that recommendation.
The learning is to "Give them the best that you can and nothing less."
5. As a 35 year Dad/Coach, I have had many, many soccer experiences. The one I will remember to this point more than any other will be carrying my daughter in my arms off a soccer field. I hold hope that there will be a better soccer memory, but it that's the last one she will remain as my favorite player of all time. "Treasure every kick, every run, every game. Be careful of your criticism, because you may not be able to give a semi-worthless opinion some day. Have fun, respect your players and your self, have class in everything you do, and play to win."
Thanks, Riss. You said, "I need a Dad more than a Coach." I am driving the bus for you wherever it goes, and I am enjoying the ride. I love you for you, and soccer is really a very small part of that. You are every father's dream and I am blessed by God to have been chosen to be your Dad.
Love forever, Dad
