And I didn't mean to start pages of debate or finger-pointing by responding to the opinion...just trying to lend a little perspective. Sometimes you have to be on both sides of the situation to understand the other perspective. Personally, I can't remember ever talking to another coach who said he/she enjoyed a double-digit match, regardless of being on the winning or losing side. I can also say fairly confidently that when we were on the losing side of lopsided scores, whether it was Wando, JI, or any of the other high-quality teams we've played, if the other coach had simply been intent on running up stats, it could have been much worse than it was.
The hard part about lopsided scores from the winning coach's perspective is maintaining competitiveness for the next match. I remember the last time I told one of my teams, "if we get to X goals, we're done scoring." What followed was some of the worst soccer I've ever seen.
Every game is a practice for the next ones, and it's the kind of practice you usually can't reproduce among themselves. So here's the conundrum--first, you need to make sure of the win. Any given team on any given night can jump up and surprise you, so it's wise to get a little cushion before taking risks. If your starters at that point aren't doing what they do best, then they're not keeping sharp for the next match. Then, if you have a second and third string who haven't gotten much (if any) time on the field, this may be their rare opportunity to get real-match experience...even though it's easy to say "put restrictions," building depth involves giving them a chance to play like they want to win. Passing around might develop some skills, but if they're not practicing finishing, they're not practicing winning. And if you pull them out the first time they get it right, they're not getting the repetition that makes it second nature.
Anyway, not trying to spread excuses or blame for any lopsided scores, just offering perspective from both sides...a coach sometimes has to try to walk a fine line between responsibility to develop and maintain his/her own team's skill set and a need to be respectful and sportsmanlike to the other team. Again, there is a big difference between rotating players around to give them opportunities to increase depth, and pounding another team with your "A" squad long after they've given up fighting back just to see how high you can run the score, and it's hard to just look at the final tally and tell the difference. If I was upset after losing 12-0 to Wando (and I was) it wasn't because the Wando girls had developed the skill and depth to keep scoring, it was because we hadn't stepped up to stop it from happening.
Could be I'm just rambling...but maybe we (myself included) could understand a lot more and live a little happier if we're not so quick to judge without knowing all sides.
