Hard Headed,
Your daughter is "the exception". We don't have too many girls from our state that play a couple of years on the R3 ODP Team and get an invite to national camp. Those girls get their pick of the litter.
They can......."have it all".
For the most part, the rest of our daughters have to decide between playing at a small(er) school, or, attending the big-time D1 school, enjoying all of the amenities and NOT playing college soccer.