Chico,
Good thoughts above. I would hate to see players (especially girls) opt out of high school soccer. I think the girls really enjoy the shared experience with classmates and the opportunity to represent their school.
Your point regarding improving the experience is very important. I see two areas that need to be addressed immediately:
1. AD's need to actively recruit better high school coaches so that no player gets stuck with a coach that "doesn't know jack about coaching soccer".
2. As football has created the "Big 16", soccer needs to do so as well. Kids in "hot soccer markets" are not being challenged with many regional games that end double-digit to nothing.