Hurst,
It is very difficult to get on the same page, especially if you have egos and individual interests involved, as was the case in Cola. Look how long it took NECSA/CSC to get on the same page. I ranted about a merger of some sort here for 3 years, and now my child has completed club ball, and so cannot reap any of the possible success that CUSC will attain. Your best approach there for immediate, as well long term success would be with CESA, with the resources/coaching/commitment they have to offer your kids.