First of all, what a shame there has to be such controversy. It sounds like both teams played their hearts out. Evidently, from what I've read, the players and coaches were able to leave it on the pitch, why can't the fans?
Secondly, does having 12 players for 2 minutes (2.5% of the match) really sway the outcome? Afterall, Lexington had 78 other minutes (77.5% of the match) to score or prevent a score.
I don't think anything should be taken away from the girls. Both teams should be very proud of their accomplishment and hold their heads high.
Congratulations to both Lexington and Wando!
By the way, the correct call would be to caution the illegal player and the restart would depend on the situation when play was stopped. i.e. if Lex had possession, it would be an indirect free kick for Lex. If Wando had a throw in, the restart would be a throw in for Wando.