I think everyone needs to make sure their priorities are straight. Everyone wants to maximize player development and maximize winning. Administrators, DOC's, coaches, players and parents all need to be on the same page. The club soccer experience works best when everyone's level of expectations are closely aligned.
sweet, you are absolutely right about quality training (player development). But when push comes to shove, and the coach feels either pressured or compelled to get a victory....sometimes the player who works the hardest, has the most skill and is most technically and tactically aware.....doesn't get on the field.
Sometimes the coach turns to the "athletic" player. As the stakes rise, often Bigger, Faster, Stronger wins.